by Natasha Jervis

Created on: November 20, 2008   Last Updated: January 10, 2009

The Problems Professional Men Face in Dating

The dating world isn't as easy as it used to be and it can be rather confusing for men nowadays. The roles between men and women have changed over the years and it leaves men dazed and confused' when it comes to getting a date or going on one. Here are the most common problems men face when they want to meet or spend time with a new lust' or love' interest and go on a date.

To Ask or Not to Ask: This is the Question

It may seem pretty confusing these days when it comes to asking a woman out on a date. You may ask yourself how do I ask? When do I ask? What do I approach her? You definitely want to steer away from cheesy lines such as, Do you come here often?' as she will laugh in your face. Be smooth, suave and just bring up general conversation, find a topic that you both like and then ask her if she would like to go see the movie you were discussing or visit that pub you both love to have happy hour at. It doesn't have to be like pulling teeth to ask. Just be natural.

Communication what? How?

Women are desperate for a communicative man to come into their lives. Men tend to protect their manly hood by sticking to one liner's and yes and no answers. Women are seeking more than one line and love a person that can open up and get into an in depth conversation. Men, don't be afraid to speak up on a date with a women. They won't think you're a wimp if you express yourself. They actually will think you are intelligent and will respect you more for it. Take it to another level and be the conversation starter! Just be careful not to talk too much about yourself and ask her questions. Avoid talking about muscle cars, body building, sports and your bulldog named killer.'

The Check is Coming: What to Do

Well this seems to be a big issue these days. Who pays? Who asked who out on the date? Are you old fashioned? Men are confused about whether or not they should cover the bill because nowadays it can either be an insult to an independent professional woman if you take the initiative and pay or an insult if you don't. It's a no-win situation guys! So, the best solution might be to go Dutch and pay your half. Don't eat a succulent lobster while she eats a Greek salad and then say, let's half the check". You just might find yourself with wine all over your face!

Sex a La Carte

This is a tricky one. Is it right to have sex on the first date? Is there a 3 date guy rule? (probably not) Do you want to wait and get to know her, or throw her on your bed and go for the gold? Feel out the situation on your date. If you have automatic chemistry in the attraction and lust department, make sure it's mutual before you make your move. If she's all over you and touching your arm or kissing you, chances are you'll be a lucky guy, but if she is just enjoying the conversation and keeping the date on the down low, chances are you're going home alone.

The Call

Should you call her after the date? Obviously not if your date was like a cold turkey. If you had a connection and think you might want to see her again or do the deed' again, then why not? The more dates the merrier. But when to call? Suggestion: Wait a few days and get in touch via phone, text or email. Keep it casual and smoothly suggest another date. If she's into you, she'll be in touch and say yes. If you get no reply, move on buddy!

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