by Ryan Meyers

Created on: November 20, 2008

I think we have a question here that has many degrees and levels of position. Everything effects a child's development throughout its life even after the child has grown into adulthood. Sure most of the core personality or emotional connects or disconnects will be drawn early in development but impressions can be made later too.

If a child grows up in a positive environment that has moments of negativity then the child will surely be fine but that is not to say that the child will not remember the negative feelings inertly and react to similar situations or outside elements in a negative way.

I believe the most important thing a child needs is love and a connection or bond with at least one other human in first days, weeks and months of development.

I don't necessarily believe that humans are born with love. I think it is learned and I think it is learned immediately after being born. The evidence is clear when observing orphaned children who were neglected in the first few months of life. Even when they are adopted in the infant stage and are given much love they still have emotional disorders very closely related to some autism disorders.

I think it is the social connections or networks that are formed almost immediately after being born that are most important and these connections must be nurturing to have a positive impact on the child's development.

I think the debate is inquiring about stress beyond that state of development but it had to be mentioned because if the child is not developed accordingly in these early stages then the child is certainly doomed for life. Sociopaths in my opinion are born this way. They have no sense for remorse because the social wires that allow us to "feel" the pain or joy of another do not exist.

Beyond that stage assuming the child has been given the needs to develop these mechanisms they are still most easily influenced by our reactions may they be positive or negative.

The problem is that they are communicating with a sixth sense that is still very much alive in us but muffled by our outside communication that is highly advanced.

Since we are so advanced with outside communication we forget about the inherent communication network (our emotions) that have the ,any answers for us as long as we stop and listen to what they are telling us. This can be destructive if our feelings are always negative because we are not only destroying ourselves but we are setting our children on a path of destruction that they may be able to avoid

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