The holiday season, from Thanksgiving through Christmas can be a very depressing time for those who have recently been through the death of a loved one. No one and nothing can stop the depression and the holidays are going to come even if you wished they wouldn't. Recognizing depression triggers during the holidays is key to avoiding a deep, clinical depression.
First and foremost, allow yourself to grieve, you are not responsible for other people's happiness. So they may not get the full-blown holly, jolly you they are accustomed to or maybe dinner will be at their house this year. It's okay. Don't allow others to tell you how you should feel. Surround yourself with people who allow you to experience your emotions without pushing you to get over them.
Make plans ahead of time about whom you will and will not be spend the holidays with. Do not put yourself in situations that are going to make you more depressed. If you have always spent the holidays at your house with mom and mom is no longer with you, this might be a good year to start a new tradition. Perhaps a friend's house or a sibling if possible. This is not to say that you have to forget all of your traditions, if mom always made apple pie, use her recipe and make apple pie as a way to remember her.
Recognize the signs of depression and when you feel yourself spiraling downward, have a plan. A friend to call, someone to talk to who will listen without judgment or interjection. Depression can be a long and lingering affliction that varies in its progression. Be aware of the alcohol served at holiday gatherings. Sure, having that drink calms you and takes the edge off the day, it's when one drink turns to four and five that you need to seek help. Alcohol is a depressant and not a good choice when you are already in a depressed state.
Eat healthy balanced meals, get plenty of rest and relax as much as possible. Immerse yourself in projects that you enjoy. Take long walks with your spouse or friend. Know that your loved one will forever be a part of your life and that depression will go away, maybe not by itself, but it will go away.
The signs of depression are very similar to common grieving; be aware of yourself and your mood, if it persists, seek the attention of your family doctor. He or she may be able to suggest a grief counselor or medication to get you through this difficult period.