by Sas Freeman

Created on: November 17, 2008   Last Updated: January 04, 2009

Finding the right person for you is not an easy task. Most people will date someone for months before realizing that person is not the one. This can go on for years. Dating is how we find out what we like in a relationship and what will not work. We are not only testing out our partners, but ourselves as well. Where do we feel comfortable? Can I wake up to this face every morning? Am I willing to share my deepest passions with this person? Do I love him/her?

Not so long ago, once we knew that we found the one for us, we got married. Now, some do still get married, but others just stay together. Just staying together leaves an open ended ticket. It gives a person the chance to leave whenever he/she wants.

So, why should we get married to that special someone and give up that freedom that we love? Marriage is a commitment that should be taken seriously. It is a vow that you are making to yourself, your spouse, your family and friends, and God. Marriage is a way to really say I love you and I always want to be with you'. Marriage is something that no one can take away from you. That is your special day and every year you get to celebrate it. There is a wonderful feeling you get when you have reached five years of marriage and you are still happy.

Marriage also brings out the true you. No matter how much you say you are yourself when you are dating, there tends to be things that you avoid in order to please the other. Many couples that are dating will not pass gas in front of the other. Whether this goes on for months or years, as soon as you are married and the newness of your life is passed, you let it all out. Things that you have done in the past that you are not proud of will also stay hidden. There is always a concern, If I tell her I did that, will she trust me?', If I tell him, will he leave me?'. Because there is not a binding commitment to each other, small or big things of the past can drive a couple apart. If that couple is married, they might be more willing to work things out in order to protect the vows they made and protect the love they have.

Marriage is sacred and should not be taken for granted. People should only enter into marriage if they are truly in love with the other person. No one should go into a marriage with the outlook of, "Well, if it doesn't work, we can get divorced." The vows that most couples make say something to the affects of "As long as we both shall live". These vows should be taken seriously. Marriage is a commitment, but it should not be feared. It is special and true.

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