A man who is observed to treat his mother well, usually can be counted on to treat the woman in his life he is dating just as well. The trouble lies in when the woman who is dating such a man becomes drawn into a situation where the mother becomes a large part of their dating relationship that should be between the two of them. This is where the term "momma's boy" is applied. No matter how well mannered, attractive, ambitious, successful, or cultured the man is, if he allows his mother to have the top priority in every aspect of his life, any woman he dates will have to contend with always being at the bottom of the priority food chain.
How do you know your man is a "momma's boy?" Consider the following true scenarios:
Man dates woman for four months, man's car breaks down and he has to ride a bike ten miles back and forth to visit girlfriend after work. One night man gets to girlfriends house and is so exhausted from working a 12 hour shift, girlfriend offers her couch for the night. Girlfriend is awakened next morning by boyfriend holding phone in front of her because his mother wants to scold her for letting boyfriend (aka her son) stay the night when they are unmarried.
Man invites woman to family barbecue. Man pulls up to woman's home in car with mother in front seat, and another lady in the back seat. You are introduced to the daughter of your boyfriend's mother's best friend, and ride together to the family barbecue. All the way over, you get to listen to boyfriend's mother extol the praises of the lady sitting next to you, where she compares how well her son and this lady were matched from the time they were babies. Man's mother prearranged aunts and cousins to keep you busy in conversation while at a distance you watch your boyfriend, boyfriend's mother, and the lady have their own happening across the patio the entire time.
Man has been dating woman for six months and invites her to spend the night at his home. Woman has a romantic evening with man at his house. Woman wakes up next morning to the sound of many people in man's house. You find out at breakfast that his mother, ex mother in law, ex wife, and the ex wife's immediate family, all live there too at the insistence of man's mother.
Man takes woman out for sushi. Man takes six calls from mother during meal. After call number six, man excuses himself because mother needs him. You are left alone with edamame and a broken dream.
You may be saying to yourself, "I would never let a man act that way around me," but sometimes when you date a man, it can be weeks before the realization sets in that you are really dating him and his mother. Learn from the wisdom of women who have been through this before you, once you identify a momma's boy, do not walk, do not take the time to contemplate that you are the woman to change him, run, run as fast as you can away from the situation and save your heart and your mind, from being ridiculously harmed.
By the way, the scenarios you just read, happened to me. And they were not the same guy.
Beware.