by Maynard Black

Created on: November 13, 2008   Last Updated: December 23, 2009

She's really gone. The thought hits you like an elevator plummeting to the bottom of the shaft from the top of a building. The cable has snapped, and there you are at the bottom, looking straight up into darkness. All the while you're thinking, "What did I do wrong? Doesn't she know know how much I love her? If she could just see what was really in my heart... she'd come back."

I'm going to tell you exactly what you don't want to hear. She's probably not coming back. My friend, if history means anything, the odds are stacked against you.

Now, notice that I didn't say "impossible." Anything is possible, and with some major effort on your part as well as a lot of luck, you just might get what you want. However, if you actually follow my instructions, you just might find that getting her back is not at all what you really need.

However, I'm not going to dance around the issue, you've only got a slim chance of getting her back. That's exactly why you have to follow my instructions explicitly. One variation, one slip up, one mistake can completely ruin everything. If you've already made some mistakes, don't beat yourself up about them, let's just move forward and do the best we can from here. This is going to be hard. Very possibly the hardest thing you've ever done, but if this is what you want, then you need to focus. Not everyone has the guts to pull this off, and that's okay. You have to decide what you really want. Do you want her back or do you want her to lose more respect for you?

First, let's talk about what NOT to do. These are the things that will negatively impact the chances of her coming back to you.

WHAT NOT TO DO:

Call - Don't call her... ever. Your gut is telling you, "Call! Call! Call! Call NOW!" Don't give in. She left for a reason, if she wanted to talk to you right now, your phone would be ringing. Is it ringing? No. Don't call her. If you call her when she doesn't want to hear from you, then that's going to create negative emotions in her (about you) that you absolutely don't want her to feel. You haven't put yourself in a good position to call her yet, which I will explain later on in the article. For now, leave that phone alone.

Text - You'll think that sending her a quick, sweet, loving message is going to create warm feelings in her and she'll spontaneously flip that train around and come rolling into your station. It's not going to happen. She left, and she doesn't want to hear from you. If she did, she'd be texting you right now. Is she?

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