There is a pain associated with the loss of love, but love itself does not hurt. The phrase "love hurts" is often misconstrued by society. There are people afraid to get into relationships because they think love will harm them. This is simply not true.
Think about it. When's the last time someone in love came up to you and said "This hurts so much." When is the last time you heard a mother say it hurt to love their child?
Studies have shown that when we are "in love" we feel quite good. Chemicals like dopamine and serotonin are released in the brain. They help give us a euphoric feeling. Some would go as far to say it is the equivalent of being on a drug. That does not sound like pain to me. If you ask me, this does not sound bad at all.
So, why do people say love hurts? If it is that bad, why do people continue to seek relationships? Why are so many people afraid to be alone? Why do millions of people go to online dating sites to meet people if they don't want to be harmed by love? Well, it may be that they are looking for the good things that love offers. When we are in love or loving someone, it is the time we feel most alive as human beings. Why? Love is powerful; however it is a blessing and a curse. When we have it, it becomes apart of us. When we lose it however it can be devastating.
It hurts to lose love because love connects us to people. When we are in love with someone, we tend to feel what they feel and empathize with their situation. It is as if our spirit and mind become intertwined with there's. We give everything. We open ourselves up in many ways and often become intimate with the individual.
Intimacy is the act of allowing someone to come into your heart. It is being naked emotionally to another person. In this process we let down our guard. We show this person the deeper part our soul. If someone we love break away from us, it hurts on many levels. This is why people say "love hurts". The pain of losing love is real. You can actually feel your heart breaking. I've had this experience.
When the bond we've developed with someone is suddenly breached it can take a toll on us. Look at it like this, loving someone is a deep investment. It is an investment of yourself and your time. Once you give this to someone you can not take it back. If someone decides they do not want to be with you, the pain can be enormous. We realize we've given parts of ourselves to this individual. We feel betrayed because our hopes and dreams are suddenly shattered.
The pain of losing love is the worst of all. I did not know what it was like until it happened to me. I meet someone on line and thought the world of him. He would write me letters and send me gifts in the male. One day he decided to take to the next level and meet me. When he met me, he was impressed with my looks and personality. I was happy as well. From there we dated for several months. Then one day I knew I was in love with him. He told me he wanted to take me to Las Vegas and have fun. Then all of a sudden around May he stopped calling me. I called him to try to get in touch with him. He's never picking up his phone. He stopped emailing me and everything. I never saw him again and it ruined me emotionally. I felt this pain in my chest for 5 months. I cried on and off for months at a time. It took a year to heal from that. This is the pain of love loss.
Overall, love does not hurt. It is the most beautiful emotion in the world. It binds, motivates and inspires people to come together. What hurts is losing it