by Nina Lewis

Created on: November 11, 2008   Last Updated: December 14, 2008

To click or not to click

I was at work one day, and a co-worker knew that I was an avid online dater, so she started to spark up a conversation. Notifying me that she spoke to several male friends that are online daters or have been online daters, and they informed her that they were only online for sex, and she went on to add that is what most men online are usually seeking. I somewhat disagreed with that statement, because I did not understand why men, would pay $35 to $85 a month for online services, when they can easily go to a bar, find a girl and woo her with a $2 drink special, and call it a night.

Granted no matter where you meet a man he is going to expect sex in most cases at some level in your relationship, it is all about getting to know a person and see if you guys are compatible and are willing to take the relationship or fling to the next level. Maybe there are some men online that who put on a facade and lie, tell you everything you want to hear, and gets your hopes up with false intentions, but hopefully you will be smart enough to separate the real from the fake.

However there are a lot of professional males that are online, and chose online dating, because they are consumed in their careers. These men really do not have time to invest in the bar and club scene: scoping out a few girls in the room, finding one they like, buying her a drink and starting a conversation that leads nowhere. With that being said, a man has an option to be selective when he is entering the cyber world of dating.
Bam, the profile is right here in his face, an updated picture, exactly his type and it seems they might be compatible. Of course he will never know until he meets her, because things on paper look different than they do in person. This way he saves time, energy and money he's choosing a woman not only on physical attraction, but he's getting to see a reflection of her personality online. This way if he is interested, he can send a short email and wait for a response. If he does not get a response he has a wide variety and selection to choose from; and if he gets a response, they can chat a bit and arrange a date. Trust me if he is intrigued he will definitely fit you into his schedule .
When dating online, you are eliminating all of the psycho-babble and unnecessary chitter chatter, because you have an idea of how that person is going to act based on their profile. The profile is basically an advertisement for potential date seekers, putting them in their best

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