by Amanda Gonzalez

Created on: November 10, 2008

Divorce something forbidden or frowned upon decades ago is now popular and frequent occurrence in modern times. There are several causes such as cheating spouses, abuse and it's all too hard can I have another husband thanks. But those serious issues aside and is often the root of these causes come down to Money, roles within the household and kids.

These three things will tear you apart without thinking if you have not discussed and agreed on how you manage those three topics before you get married.

Money - If you have not decided out you are going to handle your money whether you are going to put all earned dollars into individual accounts, or joint accounts or a mix of both, by the time the second year rolls around in your marriage you will be wanting a divorce. If you think one thing and he or she thinks another and you have not discussed it in length then you will feel cheated, that its not fair and will be the constant theme in your arguments, especially on big issue such as car and house loans.

Roles within the household - the real deal breaker. I know it sound stupid to talk about who is going to take out the trash? Who will do the dishes? Who will stay at home to look after the babies? Who will look after the garden? etc. But if you don't again you will argue about little things. You will feel you are nagging the other person or they will feel they are being nagged and no-one likes a nag. Small issues will slowly drive a wedge especially if it is not dealt with.

Kids this seemed obvious, but alot of people don't talk about it and are surprised when their spouse turns around as says I don't want kids not now maybe later or not at all. Perhaps they turn around and say I want a big family and you don't. This issue can create resentment and if not agreed on will most likely drive you apart. Also the pressures of having kids can kill relationship and if you not a couple on the same page will again cause resentment and anger towards the other person that is irreversible in some cases.

If you not going into the marriage as a team fighting for the same goals, you destined to fail from the start. There is so much that love, sex and friendship can do. If your not a team that talks about everything, and hides nothing than small issues that have not been agreed to at the start of the marriage will slowly chip away at your confidence and support and you will find the issues will become bigger until they are like mountains and the only option is divorce.

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