by Bailey Hasbeen

Created on: November 09, 2008

As a teenager, I know that this is definitely a difficult topic, and it's hard to decide. For some, it all comes down to your religion and the fact that you believe that you will be damned to hell for prenatal sex. I think, personally, that it's all how you feel. God wouldn't put the desire in you, only to reject you for following your heart.

If you love this guy/girl and you think it's going to be a forever thing, then go for it. but, if you're into the "i didn't like him, so I'll one-night him". then, you've obviously no self respect, and it doesn't matter. i firmly believe that if you would die for this person, then you've reached the point to where you should talk about it. If it's something that both of you feel would bring you closer, then, again, it's a personal choice.

But, certain pros and cons come along with it. for example, i have a friend that after a year and a half of dating a guy, they started having sex. then, that's all they started doing, and their relationship relied solely on their sexual relationship-which is stupid and they broke up.Don't let it ever get to that point.

But, I also have another friend that started having sex with her boyfriend, and it brought them so much closer, and they have been together for a very long time since then.

If you REALLY love and cherish this person for what they are, and you've seen them at their worst, then maybe it is for you.I'm not going to promote anything, or discourage anything-it's solely a personal decision.

There are also the people who have parents who don't care if you do anything, and they just go out and bang everything with two legs and the proper equipment-which is horrible, you can get STD's that way. But, then there are the people who are too scared to have sex because they're afraid their parents will find out and kill them- which doesn't benefit anyone.

For the parents reading this-you have to understand that they may be young, but it's THEIR decision. you can influence them all you want. but, it does you no favors. You have to remember what you were like, and how you felt when you were our age.

For the teens reading this-you should know that it's a big step and i wouldn't throw it away, but also that it's definitely all about how you feel with this person. you want to love that person very much, and know that it won't change your relationship, in a bad way. And, once you actually do it-be cautious. Good Luck.

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