by Elaine M. Healy

Created on: November 08, 2008   Last Updated: November 24, 2008

The question is not "would you forgive?" it should be "could you forgive?" the ultimate betrayal. A girlfriend that you have trusted with your secrets and the man that you loved and trusted. Could there be anything worse? In my opinion there is no forgiveness here for the, so called, friend or the man. The trust was twice broken and that cut makes a wound too deep to heal. You'll never be able to give your trust to that friend again. No matter how you might try that pain will never go away.

Most women are very close to their girlfriends. Especially the ones that they have around their man. Most girls will tell you that when they first have a new friend they won't bring her around her man until a certain level of trust is reached. The ones that we do let into that circle, these girls are the ones we tell everything too. The good, the bad, and the ugly; particularly about their man. Girls talk about their boyfriends all the time with their girlfriends. To find out one of those friends completely discarded the trust that you have instilled in them is enough to make you see red. Everything that you have told her is just fuel for her fire to get closer to your man. This kind of woman should be forced to wear a form of a "Scarlet Letter" as to warn other women that she is a non-trustworthy friend. This friend needs to be completely jettisoned from your life and never look back.

As for the man, thats pretty easy, just walk. No matter how much you think you love him, it is time to cut all ties. This is a man who just proved that not only can he never be trusted but he can't even be trusted with the people that are closest to you. You will never have a successful relationship with a man that you are uncomfortable to have your friends around because you just don't know what will happen. That can never be love. The only thing that could be worse is if he cheated with a member of your family.

My feelings here are pretty clear. Do not pass go, do not collect $200 dollars. It's over in both directions. If you find yourself in this situation my heart goes out to you. Just remember that most women would never do that to a friend and not every man will do it either. Don't judge the other people that are in your life, or may come into your life, by the actions of a few. Move forward with the faith that you have better things to come and deserve to be truly loved from your friends and your lovers.

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