by Seven Tafaoa

Created on: November 07, 2008

From an obvious point of view, when we think of this word "trust", abruptly we conjure up images of a girl dumping a guy because he got caught with another girl. One writer on this title came from another standpoint of a person who does not follow through his or her promises. I'm not going to sit here and pick which one is the best because it's not my job. In fact, all the reasons we bring in on mis-trust in a relationship are relevant and situational to different readers. But I want to give in my two-scents on it before all is digested.

Trust, especially in a relationship, is basically a mutual agreement. Both the girl and the guy should stick with the agreement they made in the beginning of their relationship-unless they both had their own agendas in the relationship, which eventually would sever it short. I have here some points to consider:

1. Honesty is the best policy: Both persons should be honest with each other in their relationship. Now, I'm going on about couple relationship when there are other relationships I'm not mentioning such as parent-child relationship, teacher-student relationship, friendship relationship, father-son relationship, boss-employee relationshp, and so forth. But, no matter what relationship it is, there has to be honesty inserted somewhere in there because it will be needed, enormously.

2. Lay down the Personal Agendas: Both have to agree that what they bring in to the relationship is everything, and I mean EVERYTHING-your past hurts, present intentions, and the like. Now, I don't want to sound unrealistic because most of us don't tell "everything" to our girlfriends or boyfriends; I'm asking for your discretion in disclosing anything that may be offensive to your mate and may be very uncomfortable for you afterward. The bottom line is, both of you need be open to each other...

3. Be true to your feelings: Now I don't mean to put the guys on the spot here because including myself I had relationships I was in with the intention of getting into the girl's pants. But true judge of character is on being true to your feelings: What do you feel about the relationship? Are you ready for it? Will you be the guy or the girl your friend can trust?

The issues with trust is that people get into a relationship because of some silly reason and have to go through it to hurt the other person and gain experience in preparation for another. I may be general here, but some truth can be found in it. When I was in a relationship with the intention of getting in to my girlfriend's pants, I didn't know how a girl should be treated, and how she would feel if she found out I wasn't in for the relationship per se. I tried to stay true to her, but there was no initial spark that showed me she is the one for me.

I came to find out that it's always the inital stage of a relationship, or any relationship for that matter, that trust is measured. But the truth lies within you. If the two of you have the same heart for each other, having no hidden agendas to fulfill before meeting someone else, I have no doubt the relationship will be on its way to being serious.

Examine thyself first before you make the initial move...

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