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on them by not telling every little detail in your day to day life but you are taking care of yourself. By not telling, you are ensuring that the money stays put, otherwise you two might be tempted to spend it on something else. The other important thing to realize is that if you do share this information and the person you are with turns out to be an abuser, how long do you think you will have access to that account? Is it reasonable to assume that they will let you continue to save away money, funds that they have no rights to? Domestic Violence is about total control; they will not allow you to keep saving.

Another step to safety planning is knowing at all times where you safe "zones" are at. These are places where you can run to in the event that you need to hide or be safe. It can be at a family members home, a friends house, even the local grocery store. It's just a place to be safe until you can figure out what you are going to do. The ideal is to also have a place that is secret to yourself, so that you cannot be found that easily. Put aside a set of clothes, keys and also make copies of important documents that you would need if you were to leave your home. Not anything drastic, but just a little something just in case.

If you believe that you are indeed in a possible violent relationship get out before it escalates. Do not second guess yourself, because it's always better to be safe than sorry later on. Listen to your gut, and listen to the feedback from friends and family. If they share concerns with you regarding your partner, listen. In the end, only you can leave or stay. Know that you have support, and if you are ready to leave there is help.

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