by Mark Borries

Created on: November 06, 2008

Yes, I believe you can reach a point when you are saying the words, "I Love You", too much. When the words come out with no feeling or thought, and are just a normal end to any conversation, you have reached that point.

Showing a person you love them and making them feel loved is where a lot of couples fall short today. Doing everything in your power to make the person you claim to love happy, should but a priority for you every day. Anyone can bring home flowers or do something "special", for an anniversary, or birthday. But what are you doing to let your partner know how much you love them on any given Tuesday. Love is more than jewelry, roses, and chocolates.

The words "I Love You", are words we long to hear. When starting a new relationship, you struggle not knowing when the right time to say the words for the first time will happen. You don't want to say it too soon, and be left hanging with no reciprocated admission of affection. But if you wait too long the other person may not realize you are interested, and cut the relationship off, not wanting to waste time on a dead end street. Once you muster the courage, and decide the timing is right, you say "I Love You", and time stands still while you gauge their response. You watch their eyes and face, you listen to their tone of voice, and look at how long it takes them to respond, to judge if their response is truthful. If they respond with and honest "I Love You", you rejoice and go on with life together. If their response is a half-hearted "I Love You", or you get something along the lines of "I Like You Too", some other indifferent response, you are crushed. If the relationship continues depends on how they explain their response to your profession of love.

Once people are in a relationship and have been for a while is where the problem of complacency creeps in. You get used to, and reach a point of expecting to hear an "I Love You", at the end of every conversation. You begin to say it without even thinking about it. It becomes nothing more than a standard closing or an impersonal greeting. When you reach that point, when the words are meaningless, you have said them too much. I never tire of hearing my wife tell me she loves me, because she has real feeling and emotions in her words. And her actions tell me more than her words that she loves me and wants me to be happy. I do everything in my power to make sure she feels the same way.

The words "I Love You" are powerful words when the emotion is there to back them up. When there isn't any feeling or emotion behind them , they lose all their power and become just words.

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