by Bonnie Moss

Created on: November 05, 2008   Last Updated: May 21, 2010

Domestic violence is no longer kept behind closed doors like during the times of our ancestors in the past centuries. Abuse is not always physical, it can also be emotional, financial or psychological.

Many of us know of a friend or relative who is an abusive relationship.We feel helpless as we watch the suffering, the denial or guilt feelings.

It should be a relief for anyone who gathers enough courage to leave an abusive relationship. But, unfortunately, the road to freedom is strewn with the crippling fear of the unknown, the uncertainty and confusion whether it was the right decision to leave.

It takes courage and a lot of strength to walk away from an abusive relationship. Anyone who decides to leave must have the strong determination not to be cajoled to go back to the abuser. Sadly, there are many documented cases of the abused partner going back and surely get further abused.

Leaving an abusive relationship is just the beginning of a new challenge. It takes all you've got to face the new path before you.Life will never be the same. It's the beginning of a new battleground. Learn to believe in yourself, have faith that you are making the right decision. You made the decision to leave because you realized you are important to yourself and deserve a better life. You are not a punching bag or sponge to soak up the abuser's anger.

Feel the relief of being free from another day of fear, anxiety, confusion and at times, helplessness. The road ahead is promising, remember this. It has to be better than what you left behind.Take control of your life and use the resources our society has to offer. Reach out and take comfort in the fact that you are not alone.

Talk to someone

This is a time for you to open up to someone who will listen as you unburden your pain and even confusion. Don't bottle it up inside, this is one instance where you will need a supportive relative or friend.Consider a visit with your family doctor .There are communities who are equipped with support groups. Search these out, don't face the aftermath alone. Draw strength from people who reach out to you.

Fear, anxiety or panic attacks

Having lived under the cloud of fear, known the pain and the helplessness of those moments can leave you shaken up. There will be moments of anxiety, these can last for sometime. Do you find yourself looking over your shoulders? Shadows haunt you. You jump when you hear a knock on the door or hear the telephone ring. You are free yet still feel like a prisoner.

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