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that you know all there is to know about sex but this may not always be true. It is smart to research the issue ahead of time. This can help you learn new things or refresh your memory on the subject.

Don't be too technical. This can go two ways. First off, you don't have to use big words to make yourself look smarter. Your preteen is likely not to understand if you don't break things down into terms that they can understand. Using medically correct terms can be helpful but it can also be confusing.

Secondly, you don't have to go into every single detail in one sitting. There is a lot more to sex than an hour-long lecture. You must lay down the groundwork for future conversations. Start with the basics and work your way up to more details when your preteen is ready for them.

Abstinence is important but too much emphasis on it can be a bad thing. You should encourage your child to wait until they are emotionally and physically ready. You also need to understand that things don't always go the way you want them to.

If you preach that sex is an unforgivable sin, your preteen won't come to you when they do become sexually active. They may feel like they have let you down. They become embarrassed or ashamed of their behavior. This will cause them to fear discussing their sex life with your honestly.

An important part of sex is responsibility. Educating your child of the dangers involved with sex is a good start. You must also teach them about birth control and disease protection methods. This doesn't mean that you have to put your eleven-year-old daughter on the pill or fill your ten-year-old sons pocket full of condoms. What it does mean is that you should explain options to your preteen so that they are prepared if the situation arises.

When it comes down to it, all you can do is tell your preteen the truth and encourage them to make the right decisions. You can hope for the best but it doesn't always make a difference. Regardless what sexual route your child takes, stand by his or her side and offer your support. As a parent, the most important thing you can do for your child is be there for them through it all.

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