A preteen is a child between the age of ten and twelve. The idea of a child this young having or knowing about sex is almost more than many parents can handle. We want to think that our kids will stay innocent forever. In truth, kids do grow up and there is nothing we can do to change that.

When I was ten, I found comfort in believing that the definition of sex was whether or not you are male or female.

Now days, there are many ten-year-olds that know more about intercourse than many adults do. Kids are certainly growing up a lot quicker than they once did. Because of this, it is important that parents are prepared for "the talk".

Talking about the birds and the bees is no easy task for a parent but it has to be done. Children are becoming educated through television programs, kids at school, and daily activities. Unfortunately, the things that they learn aren't always accurate. They are also not always the examples we want our children to learn from.

As parents, it is our job to teach our children the truth. Regardless of their age, preteens often become curious about sexual matters. True education on this subject starts at home.

As with any important subject in a child's life, kids will follow the examples that are set before them. It is your job as a parent to set a good example. Promiscuous behaviors and ethically questionable sexual activities are best behind closed doors. Don't parade your sex life in front of your child. This will give them the wrong impression right off the bat.

A very important step you can take as a parent is to open the doors to communication with your preteen. Don't feel intimidated or embarrassed by communication. Always be available to talk to your child and make sure that they know you will be there for them.

If you are uncomfortable talking about things, your child will pick up on this and may be less willing to talk to you. Instead, be honest and upfront about the issue at hand. This is especially important when you are discussing sex. Don't act like it is a big secret or something that your child wouldn't understand. These actions will only make your child look for answers elsewhere.

If your preteen asks a question about sex, answer it to the best of your ability. Don't lie about it. If you don't know the right answer, find it. You are not protecting your preteen by giving them false information. You are only making things harder on them in the long run.

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