by David Ramey

Created on: November 04, 2008   Last Updated: November 30, 2010

The end of my marriage was a bit like a Woody Allen script. It wasn't until things were done that entire conversations with my "ex" started popping up in my memory and making sense. I think as males we are taught to "soldier on" in the face of danger, especially when it involves something like breaking up a family. But it isn't everyday that your mate of 19 years decides that she is a Pagan Priestess and starts disappearing on "retreats" every weekend leaving you to be the only parent in the family, even when she was physically there. And, as I was relaying this story to my good friends and family at the end, they all saw it coming before I was conscious of it. Thank God they were all good enough friends to not use "I told you so".

Yes, I think the "wake-up" shovel to the back of my head was when her boyfriend called me at work to tell me that he and my wife were having an affair only because he was under the impression that I was dead. He had to actually trace me down through the internet and find me to deliver this message. When I told my best friend this story he told me I should go out, find him and buy the guy a beer. He also told me I now have the option of faking my own death and moving out of the country because I've already fooled one person, but this is off the point and he never used "I told you so".

This was all the peak of very strange events leading to that fall day that suddenly caused instant enlightenment to my own short comings of being able to interpret the signs that led us to this point. And as far as I can tell, this was really my only contribution was to the situation. I was a guy who went out and tried to do the right thing by making as much money for the family, doing what I do and I was suddenly the bad guy. I actually changed who I was and got a Master's degree in something I really didn't care about in order to do this for my family. But all this is not the only cause and this is the point where I could make a career out of writing country songs. "She's Just Damn Crazy" would be the title of the hit song. Our friends saw it. My kids saw it and my family saw it. I have no idea what she told her family and I really don't care at this point because they are the ones who created her insanity to begin with. They would have never had the hint to even say "I told you so".

The first sign I ignored was her interpretation of the truth sometimes was a bit sketchy, especially when it involved saving face. I'm not saying she's a liar, but I've

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