by Nanda Karunanayake

Created on: November 04, 2008   Last Updated: November 15, 2008

Forgiveness is the most important factor for our freedom. As an example when clench your hand to make a fist you have to use energy to keep your fingers tight. When you let go of the clenching your hand is free and relaxed.

Understand that you are wasting your valuable energy in order to keep a grudge in your heart. Grudge or feeling angry, resentment whatever the word when you are keeping in your heart or mind it is self poisoning. It will destroy the person who is having anger and not the person who made you angry. There is no other option for the sake of at least for your benefit , your health you have to forgive and forget. Some people I have heard saying that they can forgive but not forget. This is a wrong definition because it means you have anger in one corner of your heart.

In order to let go whole anger from your heart, it is necessary to forgive and forget and free yourself. Your intellectual mind is misleading you in this regard so you have to be cautious when dealing with anger and resentment. Your ego will give various reasons pointing to you that you are right and the other person is wrong in order to fix your anger and not allowing you to forgive and be free. Do not listen to your intellectual mind or ego and fall into the trap of destruction. Forgive and forget the wrong done unto you and be free yourself from the prison. You have to forgive the people who have done physical harm to you,people who have insulted you, people who have taken your things, people who have not given your dues whatever the reason otherwise you are not free.

Do not allow emotions of anger and resentment to keep you a prisoner for long.Ideal time is now to get rid of anger. It is extremely difficult to forgive a person who has raped your daughter , kill your son or do immense troubles to you. You are in a situation where difficult to reach destination.But realize that your destination is forgiveness. Take every experience as a blessing which is for you to grow stronger.

On the other hand if you forgive the other fellow being then only you deserve forgiveness. Let go the clinging to resentment or anger whatever the reason. But it is not passivity and you can go ahead with the legal proceedings if you like but important thing is to not to attach to the feeling of anger and resentment.. Forgiveness is the master key of the freedom. There is no other alternative but forgive and forget and find your freedom.

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