by G E Barr

Created on: November 03, 2008

EMERGENCE ETIQUETTE

I usually back out and carrying something, like shoes or clothes. Though sometimes, I drag out loads and loads of my son's dirty laundry, as he is playing one of his fantastic video games after a grueling school day at home. Spoiled brat. Seriously, there are days that I could give him a lesson in laundry that would make his head spin. But, I'm mom, so I do the laundry. I let Zack the Attack take care of taking out the trash.

I went into the closet straight and came out celibate about 10 years ago. Sure, people thought I was even crazier than ever I was. But what do I care? Nothing turns me on about sex anymore. Ever now and then I notice an attractive man and the hetero-female roars, but mostly, I keep it in check. My closet is profound. Okay?

Recently, Anthony Romero of the ACLU sent me his "Coming Out". It was tinged with sadness and poignantly touched my heart. Yes, if I was gay, I'd be a gay man. I guess I'm just too straight. Anyway, I respected Anthony Romero for his honesty and I like him. So I sent him an e-mail encouraging him to keep strong in the face of the Troubles in California where gay people might lose their right to marry.

Anthony Romero has a beautiful face like a fairy princess. Angel boy. He often helps people with their constitutional issues and there he is, humiliated as California tries to tell him that he cannot get married. Anthony is gay and happily so. He is also so very well mannered. I loved reading his email. If that Angel boy wants to get married, I say let him.

Shame on California, who should not have moved a wedding shop into the closet and then renig on the deal. It's bad manners and white trash politics. I say, that if the gay want to marry, then let them. Sure, they've got a lot to learn and I could tell them, but you know, nobody listens to me anyway.

In other words, I support gay people who are not trying to be something that they are not. I support gay people who like adults for sex and marriage.

There are different ways of coming out of the closet and there are different ways of saying who you are. Normally, it is good to present who you really are to people who give a damn. Not the entire planet. And here gay people go again having to speak out more and more.

This issue should be private for gay people. You know, whether they get married or not. Thwarting their ability to get married is not right.

I am reminded of the sassy and wonderful Oscar Wilde who came out and tried to be who he was. He wasn't hurting anyone and he wasn't trying to force himself on anyone. But they put him in prison.

Oscar was ahead of his time. He would be in this time also. Strange how that works out.

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