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Learning to deal with people who drain your energy is a life skill. This is because having the knowledge with which to defend yourself from those who would seemingly steal away your energy at the drop of a hat is essential. There are not just one or two people who are proficient energy drainers out there in the world, but many, who often have no idea about the effect that they have on others.

No doubt we all know such people. Perhaps it is a friend who calls you repeatedly off loading their worries until they feel better and you feel like you have been run over by a truck. Maybe its a relative who always seems to need your assistance just when you thought that you had a few spare moments of peace available for yourself. There again, it may just be that the main energy drainer that you know is someone who you are forced to be in close contact with and who lives on nervous energy, incessantly chattering ten to the dozen as your mind spins while attempting to keep up with the stressful emotional torrent of words streaming from their mouths.

The one thing that all energy drainers have in common is that they demand your full attention at their beck and call. They rarely have time to recognize that you also have needs and are unlikely to respect your time and effort in being with them or carrying out tasks for them.

To effectively deal with people who leave you feeling exhausted you need to gain back some control and learn how to only give energy that you have available to do so on your own terms, rather than theirs. This means that you need to set personal boundaries that you make clear to the individual involved.

At first, setting boundaries may seem tough. It could be that you dont want to hurt the other persons feelings or that you feel obliged to help them in some way. Helping others is good, but you should remember that you can only truly do so if you are well balanced and fully functioning yourself. By allowing another person to rob you of your life giving energy you also render yourself less able to be of use to anyone. At the same time you cease to be an effective individual and can lose self respect.

When you realise that to function properly you need to be in control of the energy that you disperse you will be able to understand the importance of handling energy drainers responsibly. That means being responsible to yourself by keeping yourself well. It also means behaving responsibly towards them by letting them see that they need to be more considerate to

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