by Steven Pike

Created on: October 31, 2008

People certainly should have sex before marriage.

Can you imagine holding out unitl the big night, full of expectations, only to find that he or she doesn't really push your buttons. What happens then? A lifetime to be spent without the enjoyment of a fulfilling sexual relationship? Sex isn't the only factor in a successful marriage, but it is a crucial factor. What percentage of marriage breakdowns are caused due to either the husband or wife having sex with another person? Quite a few I'd guess.

If you did have sex before marriage, and it was particularly bad, or you just knew that it would never work, then careful consideration needs to be given regarding the future. Unhappy men and women will seek sex from elsewhere. It happens time and time again. This of course leads to problems within the marriage, both physically and mentally. If a more suitable sexual partner is found, it is not difficult to feel animosity towards your husband or wife. This will, in turn, lead to communication problems and the possible, if not probable, breakdown of the marriage.

It seems that people dance around the issue, stating that it's not the "right" thing to do, or "people will talk". They may base their argument on religious grounds. What may be forgotten is sex is natural and will play a major role in most relationships. It's enjoyable (let's face it) and it's even more so if you are rolling around with someone who enjoys it as much as you do. If this is the person that you choose to be your husband or wife, then you can't (hopefully) go wrong.

As mentioned above, sex, on it's own, does not make a successful marriage, but it is very important and sexual incompatibility should not be taken lightly. I think that if two people are attracted to one another sexually, then it is likely that sex before marriage is going to happen anyway. There is hardly a force on earth that could prevent that from happening. If you find that things aren't quite what you expected, give some thought as to what might be wrong. It needs to be sorted out before you are married. It could save a lot of heartache.

It's an important issue that goes deeper than any moral argument. If the bond between the couple is strong, then sex before marriage is not going to alter it. The sex will strengthen the bond and allow the couple to address other issues in their relationship, issues that can be controlled.

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