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You Have Been Caught

While keeping the affair a secret to prevent the hurt it would cause. Deep inside you could not wait for the truth to come out. Others though have no regard for the mate and the pain they cause does not affect them one bit and it goes on and on.

The question, what should you do if you find out that your one and only has been cheating? Can that be answered with factual tactics to help one faced with this ordeal to make a decision, or will it be just a long drawn out opinion that will last forever because nobody agrees or can agree on what one person should or shouldn't do.

The question first asked is Why? Can that be answered easily? It seems we keep creating new questions. There you go, it will be an endless debate and then someone is still hurt and in pain.

Initially whatever is placed in print here will be an opinion, although I can say there is some education behind this opinion.

Relationships take work, trust and committment. These traits are usually between two people who fall in the catergory of Human Beings. This means there will be failures and mistakes as well as stupid or to be less cruel poor decisions.

The circumstances involved with one cheating or the reason that one cheats vary. The reasons don't make it right but they do help one decide is there something to save or is the person I have chosen just not the right one.

Take it from me that when someone cheats it has many excuses for why but the main one is usually no self respect because they are not able to respect themself they cannot honor nor respect you. When a person cheats it eminately is more detrimental to the the cheater than the cheatee. Yes the one who was cheated on will be affected but the cheater has cheated himself/herself because he/she has jeapordized their relationship and the foundation that was built through the course.

Otherwords if one cheats they are cheating themself. They have offended themself. They have hurt someone that trusted them. You know whether you care about the victim of cheating as much as they may care about you, just think how hard it is for one to trust and give themself to someone so that they can feel comfortable when the person they trusted with every intimate feeling and thought as well as their hopes and dreams decides to void that to have a few minutes of fleshly pleasure, that more than not will never be anything but an affair. The person that was part of the cheating could never trust someone that cheated with them knowing they had another relationship ongoing.

So what should you do if you find out that your one and only is cheating on you? I don't know but I will tell you to be careful and to try to think about what could happen if ones actions cause another pain. Always remember that the other person you are involved with has feelings and deserves respect. If your mate decides that cheating is what they have to do, take the hurt and pain and wear it like a shield and find someone who can give what they receive and that is what has to be done.

Also if you are the cheater think about the future and if this is worth losing everything and if it is worth losing someone who loves you then break the others heart by saying it is over with respect for them rather than cheating. Breaking up is hard to do but cheating on your lover is a loss that will not do.

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