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Confidence. Is that not a topic in itself? I thought and thought and thought about how to define confidence as an opening paragraph. The result of that was to not define it at all. After devoting some time to the posing question I realized that a definition is not needed. What needs to be stated is that all my personal definitions lead to one thing.... that regardless of how you define confidence there is only one thing blocking it from being achieved... 1 or more insecurities, at least to my knowledge. The less the level of insecurity, the more confident.
You must learn as a parent. From birth, get to know your child. Learn their thought process as much as possible. Through getting to know and understanding your child at this level it is only that much easier to identify a developing insecurity. Make it your goal to provide them with comfort. Comfort through every level of support, do not forget about mental support, the support behind their ideas, beliefs, opinions, thoughts.

In today's young adults it is obvious to me that a major insecurity exists among far too many. This insecurity is the awkwardness of sharing thoughts, especially a thought that crosses one's mind and is not considered a popular topic or idea by the thought possessing person.
There are many insecurities like this that exist today that are not discussed. Too many people consider them to be 2nd nature and do not even see them as an insecurity. The discussion of them is not necessary in this writing for they follow suit as to what will be said throughout this article. I will continue to use the previous stated insecurity as an example throughout this writing and attempt to use words that can hereby be related to other learned or adapted insecurities.
Promote your child in sharing their thoughts, ideas, and opinions. Ask them logical questions, pay attention to their answers. Ask questions and lead them to finding their own positive, supportive answer. It is great great to compliment them on their ideas and opinions, but the need to feel self support as well. Others, society, the world does not always offer a compliment and you do not want your child to need or even be expectant of a compliment. Teach them to compliment themselves. What you want is your child to have a fulfillment within themselves.
Remember that there is truth behind "actions speak louder than words". Share your appropriate thoughts with your child, most importantly thoughts that are on a basic level that your child can understand. Promote you child asking questions and building off of your thought. Share silly thoughts. Make no thought sound uncomfortable or not important. Explain to your child that you are there any time they want to share a thought, any thought at all, and that you love hearing them. Pay attention to how your child acts why in thought. This will allow you to know when they have something on their mind in the future. And there will come times that they do not feel comfortable sharing their thoughts.... but through knowing when that time is present and knowing how to find your level of comfort with them you can work through what is on their mind easier.
Although there are many insecurities that can easily be developed in todays society I strongly believe this insecurity and its prevention to be the key to confidence.

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