by Joseph Hiller

Created on: October 29, 2008   Last Updated: January 23, 2010

Absolutly! But not just with married women. I never understood why the woman makes the decision on whether to have a baby or not. Does it not take two people to make a baby? Then why does the woman get to decide if the baby is born or not?

I watched a movie last week called "Too young to be a Dad". A 15 year old boy got his girlfriend pregnant. She decided she did not want the baby and chose to put it up for adoption. The boy fought that decision and ended up with the baby, even though it was promised to a couple by the mother. I like that. No, it's not abortion, but shouldn't the law sway in the same direction? If a woman doesn't want the baby, but the man does, shouldn't there be some law to keep the woman from aborting the child if the dad wants to raise it?

On the other hand, what if the woman wants the baby but the dad doesn't? Today, too bad for the dad. The woman gets to choose. If the woman decides to have the child, but the man does not, he's out of luck. Now he either stays with the woman and raises the child he didn't want, or he leaves and pays child support on a child he didn't want to have.

Yes, he chose to have sex with her and got her pregnant. But why should she be able to make the choice of whether or not they have the child? It took two of them to have the child, why shouldn't they both be able to make their own choice on whether or not they want to keep and care for the child?

I am the father of three boys. None of them were planned. The first two came because my girlfriend, (now my wife), stopped taking birth control and did not tell me. In this case, should I be responcible for these boys? Let me say, even though I didn't want children, I love them more than life. But the fact that I was lied to, should I still be responcible for child support should we divorce? After all, she lied to me. I thought she was on birth control, but she wasn't. Should I still have to support these boys if we are divorced?

Abortion is a controversial topic. With people who aren't married, it's hard enough. With couples who are married, I would guess it's harder. I'm 39 and my wife is 45. If she were to get pregnant again, I would discuss abortion. She is at an age where pregnancy is risky. I would not want to risk her health or life for another child.

So should spousal consent for abortion be required in a marriage? Yes!

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