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Talking sex with a pre-teen is sensitive territory for parents. A parent should be the first to talk to them however it can be difficult to approach. Explaining sex is complicated because you do not want to be scientific and you do not want to embarass the child at the same time. Pre teens are embarrassed enough and they are at an awkward stage in life so comfort is everything. However the sex talk can be done with ease if you know how to get the topic going.

You should start talking to your kid at a reasonable age. I found that it is easy that when your kids recognize that there is a difference between boys and girls start talking. My youngest daughter is five and I have taught her the proper name for the male and female reproductive organs. To me I found this a must because I figured if I could not teach her the names how will I be able to explain sex. The next thing that she asked me was where babies come from. If you lie and say the stork you only complicate matters further, but if you sit a child down and take the time to show them a picture of the female reproductive system than you are setting a strong foundation. After all it is easier to go at it step by step than to get slammed at once with questions that you are uncomfortable answering. Telling your child the truth also sets a relationship of trust and it ensures that your child will come to you when they need answers.

Asking your child about the things that they are exposed to and asking them what they know already is a good idea. Making them feel like part of the conversation is a excellent way to find the information you and the child needs. Doing so gives you a good base for your talk. This also allows you to tell your child what are the truths and myths that they have picked up on from other kids and how much they have been exposed to from the everyday environment. I believe that a child is never to young to be educated about sexual matters because the times that we live in now sex is up front and out in the open.

Talking to your child in a manner that shows you are not nervous ensures your child that they can talk to you about anything comfortably. Believe me the sex talk is uncomfortable to them too. The key is to give the right amount of information in a way that the child can understand, listen to the child, provide comfort, answer questions truthfully, and lay a good foundation so that the child comes to you for answers to their sex questions.

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