by Rachelle de Bretagne

Created on: October 27, 2008

It's hard to talk to a preteen about sex, though the benefits outweigh the disadvantages. Short term discomfort for the parent is not as important as the long term benefits of a child being informed and ready to greet teen life with a perspective which is healthy. This article is written with the parent in mind and helps them to find the resources and also the courage to take up the subject of sex with their preteen, before sex actually becomes part of their lives.

*Sources of information for the parent.
*Providing information to the preteen.
*Covering all aspects.
*Teaching morality.
*Teaching a child how understand when sex is appropriate.

Sources of information for a parent.

If you are a parent and are against teaching your preteen about sex, this this resource should change your mind. These are facts about the sexual activity of teens and the reality is that the manner in which your teen copes with their first sexual encounter and consequences from that encounter are in your hands. Be informed on all aspects. It is not just a question of birds and bees, but knowing how to explain everything they need to know about sexual activity as an adult.

Providing information to the preteen.

Ask your doctor what information they have available on all aspects of sexual activity for teens. Often there are some good free literature items which can be obtained from professionals about contraception and disease, and these will back up your education of the child. Look also for any information from libraries which will help you and which can supplement your teaching of the child, by giving them reading material to increase their awareness.

Make sure that you have time set aside for talking to your child. If you appear too embarrassed, this also makes them feel very uncomfortable. A child seeks parental advice and will find it strange that there are things you are too embarrassed to cope with. Expect questions, and anticipate them. Above all be honest about the sexual act and what it involves, and also that the child is aware of the consequences, though make this very matter of fact, rather than given as warning. Warnings may alarm the child and make them avoid relationships. Normal talking about things that happen to people every day of their lives, put into a manner which they can understand helps to allay their ignorance of the subject and to go into their adult life with knowledge that many kids don't have simply because their parents find the topic too embarrassing.

It is the parent

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