by Tina Shelnutt

Created on: October 26, 2008   Last Updated: July 18, 2011

Love never goes away...it only hides when it feels neglect or hurt. Too many times, we attach our 'Love'. To the daily grind of life's problems and obstacles Love seems to fade as we bury ourselves in our day today's responsibilities many things can hide the love we once felt for someone: Raising children, work, illness, distance, lack of time, bills, hurt, lack of involvement, shared responsibility, inactive sex life, broken promises, reality of a relationship, honesty, selfishness, pride, judgment, and so many other issues which can hinder the love we once felt for someone,

When we allow our relationship to be pushed aside, put on the back burner or become a battle of the sexes, we open up our emotions to be victim to the 'WHAT ABOUT ME' syndrome. Too many couples forget that they are a unit; they are suppose to work off of each others strengths. It's not a matter of who can do what better; it's the wisdom to join forces and draw on the positive of each other. Everyone has strong academic and personal gifts.

That's what makes a couple strong and efficient. One's weakness is another's strength. When you can put down those 'Accusing-Pointed-Fingers' you will began to mend a love which has been injured.

Healing starts to take place as we realize that you are not each others enemy...you are each others stronghold and help meet. Know who your enemies are and together you will overcome anything that the enemy may throw your way. Take time to hold each other. Make time for one on one interaction. Like a plant which needs water to survive, your relationship needs compassion and understanding to grow into one of the most rewarding and fulfilling gifts of life...a relationship with love, forgiveness, appreciation, sacrifice and open-minded thinking.

The reason you fell in love with someone is still the foundation which you started with. Feed it and let it grow. We married at age fifteen and overcame many life-changing circumstances. Today we have been married for Thirty-four years and our love grow stronger every day. We know that we are blessed to have each other. Together, we will be a unit, successful and full of love. Join the club...it's one of the most rewarding gifts which life has to offer.

We make time for everything: the internet, email, games, friends, hobbies, habits, watching television, text messaging, and many other things which rob our relationship with our spouse of growth. Every couple should have a break from all distractions which interfere. You should be able to sit and just share your day or concerns. You should have a cuddle time, a time for sharing, a time for encouraging one another.

ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS: Everything which you experience or encounter, effects your relationship. Therefor, you are a unit which draw on each other. Together you can overcome anything and be stronger from it. Comprimising is not 'giving in'. It's not an act of weakness or loss of control. Two heads are better than one, in every situation. Marriage is meant to be.

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