by K Lochery

Created on: October 25, 2008

Will he cheat while he's on holiday?

If your man is going away on a men's holiday without you, there are a few things that may be going through your mind. Will he cheat? Will he drink too much? Will he end up getting arrested for some stupid behaviour?

Unfortunately, I can't answer your questions, but I can give you small hints and tips to point you in the right direction - whether to trust him or not!

The first thing you should look for before your man goes away on holiday, is any jewellery that you may have given him. If you have presented him with a bracelet, necklace or ring as a gift at some point or another, and he normally wears it, taking it off is a very bad sign. Yes, he may just be taking it off to ensure he doesn't lose it, but if he was that worried about it, he wouldn't wear it while he was at home with you either, would he? You confont him about this before he goes away, but make sure, if you do, he hasn't packed it, and has actually left it at home.

If you're helping him to pack and you come across a mound of condoms in his suitcase, it is pretty much guaranteed that he is planning to be unfaithful. Ok, he could have got them for the rest of the lads, but is this really likely? Again, confronting him may be a good idea, but he could turn around and make up some story or another. A good, but sneaky thing to do, would be to count the condoms, and then wait until he gets home and count them again. If there are some missing, he could have done the dirty. Again, he could have lent them to his friends, but he shouldn't really be walking around with condoms in his possessions anyway, especially seeing as he has a partner....you!

If he starts mentioning things that have happened in the past, such as, "I had a friend who cheated on his girlfriend while he was away. That's OK though isn't it? What she doesn't know won't hurt her!" This could be his way of trying to find out your opinions on cheating while on holiday before he goes and does his business. Again, it could just be him remembering holidays gone past, but if this is combined with the condom thing, I'd start packing! If he does say this to you, lay down the line, tell him that cheating is unacceptable, whether you are on holiday or not!

If you usually pack his case for him, and he's decided to do it himself, I'd be slightly worried. Ask him why he has decided to pack when you normally do it. Always check to see what he's packed, where possible, and again, if there are condoms in there, you could have a situation on your hands!

At the end of the day, if he's going ot be unfaithful, he will. There is no amount of checking up on him in the world that you can do to stop him. These things happen, and you may just be the lucky one that has a faithful guy, but my past experiences have shown me that you can never really trust anybody. Talk to him and tell him about your fears, and don't do anything too hasty! Just keep your mind open and don't fall for rubbish stories and you should be fine!

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