by Emelia Rose

Created on: October 24, 2008   Last Updated: February 28, 2010

I am a single mother of three children. When I divorced my ex-husband I never denied him of our children. He proved to be a good father from the first time he saw our son. I would not be the one to deny the kids. They love their father very much and he has been an active parent for the past seven years of our divorce. We have joint custody where we both have equal time and have our quiet times alone.

Children need a father figure throughout their lives. Through the fun times and the tough times. My children's father attends all school functions, we split the doctor/dentist visits, and he ponies up on his responsibilities. We remain friends and I know that it would hurt him not to be around his kids. He loves his children, plain and simple.

It is different with each child. Our oldest daughter was a little rebellious, did rarely ok in school, but is the sweetest girl I know. She was legally adopted by my ex and has looked up to him for being there to raise her. Just two years ago she found her biological father and now has two fathers. Her personality has changed and she feels loved three ways. They both have made a difference in who my daughter has become.

My son is fourteen and adolizes his father. There was a time when his father was busy with life that he didn't spend much time with him and all my son wanted was to hang with his father. Now they are tighter than ever. As my son gets older I see habits of his father but he also has some of me in him, he's a charmer. We are solid when it comes to school and my son has done extremely well so far in school. His future is bright and hopefully stay that way. I'm not naive, adolescence seems to set into the picture.

Our youngest daughter is twelve and is daddy's little girl. I must say it's a stereotypical scenario. She is a comedic young lady with the love of her Dad and Mom. She is a genuine person. Always wants to tell you the truth, sometimes you wish she wasn't so truthful. My daughter is the loving person she is for having her father in her life.

I close in saying that my ex and my children are who they are for being in each other's lives. The love, the support, and yes, even the discipline have impacted my children's lives. Their father remained a whole man after our divorce and is a loving father. As for the biological father of my oldest daughter, he is thrilled having her back in his life and she travels to see him a couple of times a year. But she of course talks to him often.

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