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You enter a relationship with a desire is to share your love and life with someone who will reciprocate those feelings back to you. While some couples manage to do this quite successfully, others are not so lucky. Recognizing red flags early on in a relationship means that changes can be made so that both partners can either improve their relationship or end it to avoid heartbreak later on in life.

Lack of communication is one red flag that has to be heeded before any relationship can move forward. Two people sharing their lives together means that various aspects like running a home or bringing up their children need to be planned together to make a success of them. One partner cannot possibly do it alone with a "silent partner" beside them. A partner who is withdrawn and not willing to show any love either through communication or in a physical sense will leave the other partner feeling unfulfilled and insecure.

Living with an argumentative partner is another problem that should be confronted the moment it starts or it will continue throughout the life of that relationship. The underlying reasons for the arguments should be discussed and resolved but away from children and in an atmosphere where you can be civil with one another and not make a scene.

Partners who lie or are secretive can destroy a relationship unless they seek counseling to make them open up and start trusting themselves and other people again. Being open and honest helps lay a strong foundation for a relationship to grow upon.

Another warning sign is someone who refuses to work and earn a living; it means they are lazy, uncaring and irresponsible with no ambitions or drive to improve their lives in any way.

Partners who flirt openly or have a tendency to cheat should be best avoided to prevent being hurt later on in the relationship. Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and without this, there is no solid foundation to build anything on.

Being abusive is one red flag area that you should never ignore. This is a person who needs professional help and if the abuse is allowed the offending partner will repeat this behavior throughout the relationship. The effect of this on the other partner and the children is traumatic and no person should have to endure a relationship like this.

If there is genuine love and couples seek relationship help in getting rid of these red flag areas in their lives, there is no reason why a relationship cannot change for the better. The main thing is admitting that there is a problem that needs to be addressed and seeking help actively together in order to make changes for the better.

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