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We watch from the sidelines as relationships fall to pieces and our hearts break for those who are left in pain and loneliness. We secretly hope that this will never happen to us, and at the same time we realise that, if it ever did, our world as we know it would cease to exist.

We see the Red Flags in other people's relationships and we silently worry that we may not see our own. So, what are the Red Flags? Sadly, by the time we acknowledge those flags' it's usually too late and friends and family are already giving us the knowing nod as they sympathise with us.

It's so difficult to trust someone completely. To do that means that you place your whole basis of security in one person's hands and hope that they will honour that trust. Unfortunately we are dealing with human emotions here and generally people are quite fickle when it comes to breaking trust, both with their partners and with themselves.

A partner who becomes more caring, more loving, more interested in your daily activities would be the initial red flags to be looking for, for an unfaithful partner. They may also encourage you to tackle more of life's activities by yourself or with your other friends. Other red flags for a dying relationship can be as simple as more arguments, lack of passion, and lack of interest in the other person.

I believe that relationships last for only as long as it takes for one person to want to move in another direction, and the other party is either reluctant or unwelcome to follow. It's often a matter of maturity that determines the end of a relationship, where one person is happy to stand still' and the couple's interests are now not the same.

Relationship help can be extremely useful, but only if the parties are mature enough to work with their mediator. A good counsellor with relationship experience can work with willing couples and often great outcomes occur. Indeed, relationships can become more fulfilling but it does take commitment, time and maturity.

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