by Danyelle Scroggins

Created on: October 23, 2008   Last Updated: October 30, 2008

There use to be a time when you'd notice things going wrong in a relationship right off. Simple things like: he wouldn't answer your telephone calls, he's always a no show on date night, or simply, he only comes over at night. Now with technology at it's height, it's hard to notice red flags right off. With cell phones, a guy can call you while he's with the other woman and you'll never know it. Cell phones have made it easy for some red flags to go unnoticed. The person who is in a fraudulent relationship with ugly motives and lies, typically knows how to cover up the bad things. Unfortunately, with the aid of good devices, it's often hard to see the red flags and they sometimes help to hide them.

Sometimes, women are usually knee deep in emotional attachments before they even realize that they've noticed red flags in a relationship. Oftentimes, women turn a blinded eye to unfruitful events in order to remain involved in a relationship. It's hard finding a mate these days. Often when women find what they believe is a valid relationship, they look over the red flags and little woes in order to sustain the relationship. I've found that women are more successful at good relationships when they take total stock of what they're getting into.

The best relationship help is to tell women to asks the questions that need to be asked, and take the time to evaluate the person their becoming involved with. This is when red flags become minimum. It's always easier for the both of you when he knows exactly what you will and won't put up with. When you make yourself clear in the beginning, they'll think hard about not showing up or telling lies. It's not because they're threaten, but typically, because they realize clearly that the end result will be a break up.

Like I normally say when I counsel women, "you don't have to go looking for a dirty smell, it will come find you". Things that aren't right eventually come right to you; just like a bad smell. Before you get emotionally attached, good relationship advice would be to tell you to watch, wait, or wake up. Watch for good habits, bad habits, and mannerisms. Wait for perfect opportunities to discuss your likes and dislikes. Most importantly, if you've seen too many red flags in a relationship, wake up to the reality that this person is not meant for you and move on.

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