by Hellen Wyeth

Created on: October 23, 2008   Last Updated: October 25, 2011

Red flags in a relationship are simple to spot but most times easily dismissed. He's probably a great guy and makes you feel incredible. Well, most of the time any way. If there wasn't a problem, you wouldn't be questioning his behavior or lack of. Trust your gut instincts. Dismissing red flags will only lead to misery and a nasty break-up in the end.

New relationships are fun and exciting. Especially when you've got a new man that seems so unique and lavishes you with gifts. Nothing else seems to exist except for you and him. You two are on top of the world and you have found Mr. Right. Once the euphoria dissipates a bit, you start to see that, yes, Mr. Right is definitely unique, but maybe not Mr. Right.

A relationship that quickly turns into your new roomie, may not be what you intended, but here you are. Not to mention, he's probably already dropped that magical 3 word bomb with those romantic eyes, gazing into yours. He's never loved someone as much as he has you.

Don't become your own prisoner. Think about how many times he's asking you who's on the phone and what you're talking about. He wants to know every little detail. At first it seems a little cute and that he's just wanting more attention from you. Next thing you know, you're hiding somewhere in your house trying to have a private chat to vent about it.

Girls night out and you're ready to go. Or so you thought, until he decided to give you a guilt trip for him not being invited. Granted it's girls night, but you two are as one. Being an individual is not an option. The fact that you even wanted to go at all is grounds for a fight. You have three choices, argue and go without him, reluctantly take him, or throw in the towel and stay home.

From extensive experience, your closest friends will not lie to you about your mate. Some of the best relationship help comes from friends. They truly love you and brutal honesty will come easily and freely if they see their best friend kicked around. It's up to you to take the blinders off and look at the relationship as it really is.

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