by Ron Robbins

Created on: October 22, 2008   Last Updated: October 30, 2008

There can be many red flags in a relationship that may indicate things in general just aren't going correctly. I may not be a relationship help guru, and I may not be Dr. Phil, but to some people the red flags may not be that obvious. However, if you use a little intuition and common sense, the red flags should stick out like a sore thumb. That is the scope of this short article. Learning the signs is an important part of life and maintaining your mental stability in the future. Chances are if you're reading this article, you're already witnessing some of the red flags.

So you're sitting at home together, and you're agonizing over another episode of "I Love Lucy" on the television. But, you don't particularly have any problem with it, because you love her and you are happy doing anything with her. She's laying on your shoulder and you're feeling pretty good about the situation. Suddenly, from out of nowhere... BEEP! BEEP!

She pulls our her cellphone and begins text messaging some unnamed friend for half an hour, while you're still sitting here watching Lucy in all her magnificent black and white glory. If a warning flag doesn't go off in your head here, especially after being given no information about the person... Wait. We're not talking about my life experiences are we?

If you feel your significant other is being unfaithful or lying to you about something, or simply that things are just not going right anymore - that is usually the first step. Our mind forms conclusions to situations and problems logically and often subconsciously. The red flags could be many things. Early sign that the relationship is just not on the right path could be simply a partner's general lack of interest in you. She doesn't use that same beautiful smile anymore. She doesn't look deeply into your eyes, and she doesn't seem particularly content when you're together. She may not act negatively, but she just doesn't seem comfortable.

Love is a two way street, and often a communication based experience. If you feel something in your relationship is going wrong, you need to stop ignoring the red flags, sit down, and have a serious discussion with the person. Another red flag may be the inability to accomplish this task. She just doesn't listen to you. She seems disinterested, or agrees about certain issues and blames you for them. She may be distracted or completely ignore you.

Chances are, if you can't have a serious discussion with someone you're in a relationship with, and you can't be open and honest with each other - all you're doing is wasting your time and digging yourself into a trench of heart-break.

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