by Callista Meyer

Created on: October 22, 2008   Last Updated: February 13, 2010

Imagine waking up one day and feeling that you were in the wrong body, although the one you are in is indeed your own. Gender dysphoric children know who they are by that simple ticking in their head and heart that tells them they are male or female when their body is showing them as the opposite. You can not picture yourself in these children's position as it is near impossible. However, there are some ways that you can help your child live a drama free successful life.

Many will ask if it is easier just to teach and inform the child how to be the specific gender. This theory is not recommended as it will further confuse the young child. Gender dysphoric child face many challenges on their own, without having their family members (parents, siblings etc) preaching to them how a "boy" should behave or how a "girl" should act. You will be teaching your child how to act the way society wishes to see them behave, not by the way the child truly feels they should. You will further insult your child by forcing them to believe to hate their body. They feel as if they are male or female mentally but their body unfortunately despises those feelings by causing them to have the opposite genitalia. We do not want our children to fight their bodies but accept them as they are. A hatred or dislike towards their own body, could in time lead to eating disorders or something more severe such as suicidal attempts.

Your extended family may be in shock, approval or denial about your child's gender roles but you need to be honest and upfront with them from the beginning. The child's family will become their greatest support group throughout their journey of life and by being upfront with extended family you are showing your child that it is ok to express your feelings with others. Keep in mind that it may take your family some time to absorb all of the new information about their niece/nephew or grandchild. Let them come to you when they are ready to face the situation instead of forcing yourself on to them. Hopefully, you come from a supportive family who will understand and be there for your child during their life.

One of the most important goals for you is to get educated! Go to your local library or your doctors office and ask for information in regards to gender dysphoria. It is not that uncommon of a disorder and you will be able to ask your doctor any questions that may arise from your readings. Keeping everyone in your close family and friend circle informed will limit

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