by Jeanette Lizondro

Created on: October 21, 2008   Last Updated: October 30, 2008

Many people believe that love is the most important element in a relationship. However, love alone does not form a good relationship or one that will last. The dating process can be fun and exciting but many times the couple is acting out of character in an effort to impress the other person. This is normal behavior as we all strive to act our best in front of people we don't know. It may take a long time before you get to know all the negatives and little flaws of each other.

There are a few possible warning signs that should be investigated for any underlying problems that may affect your relationship. These red flags in a relationship should aid you in determining if the person you are dating or in a relationship with is a good fit for you.

You should seek relationship help if your partner is constantly blaming others, lies about anything, is unable to trust you around others, has no sense of responsibility, has no self respect, cannot keep a job, lives with parents, does not let you express your own opinions. There are many other red flags in a relationship that deserve to be examine, but two of the most important ones are trust and respect.

Without trust and respect love cannot thrive. You need to be trusted by your partner and allowed to have your own friends and relationships. Without a partner's trust a person cannot grow emotionally or intellectually. Ideas and feelings grow from the relationships you form with your friends and family and not only your partner. If you are not allowed to explore these ideas and feelings you may not be able to grow as a person. This may cause problems in the future and deserves to be explored if you feel you are not living your own life.

Every aspect of a relationship revolves around trust and respect. If you are being lied to, how can you trust your partner again? If your partner isn't working towards any goals, how are you to learn and grow from this person? These questions need to be answered before you can decide if this relationship is worth fixing or letting go. But the clear message is that something needs to be done if any red flags arise in your relationship. It is always a good idea to keep vigilant with open eyes and ears in order to fix whatever potential problems may show at the earliest stage possible. A good love relationship has a good foundation made out of love, trust and respect for one another.

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