by Lisa Davies

Created on: October 21, 2008

Taking time off at the end of a relationship is the best thing one can do for themselves. I have always felt like there are so many couples out there in this world that are together for all the wrong reasons, rather it be convienance, financial, don't want to be alone, just seems like the right time, my biologiical clock is ticking - whatever the reasons are, none of them should be the reason one bases the seriousness of who and when to marry.

You shouldn't love someone because you need them - you should need them because you love them! I have find so many people, rather they were male of female that really detest being alone. I was one of those people once.... And that "once", was for many years. And many years of self soul searching. I have concluded that when we as humans, really dislike being alone, most of the time it is centered or directed right back at ourselves. Either we don't like or love ourselves, have not accepted ourselves for who we are, therefore why would we want to spend time solely with ourselves, when we could be spending time with someone we not only like or love, but we get the bonus of not having to think of us or are own problems or self-issues.

Coming out of a relationship rather it was a pleasent ending or not so pleasent, we all need time to sit back, maybe anaylize the situation, examine ourselves and what we could h ave done different. And let's say that you have a cheating partner or someone that abuses you in some way - we might look within ourselves once agian to see what draws us to these types of people. And the old addage is - it would only be a rebound relationship.

Take time out for you, get to know yourself, things you love to do, that maybe you haven't gotten to do because of the relationship you were in. Start loving yourself. And if there are things you don't like about yourself - change them. It may be hard - but remember, the only person we can change in this life on earth is ourselves, and the only life we have control over is our own. So don't we owe it to ourselves to get know oneself? Be true to you - when all else lets you down in life, besides your higher power, who else do you have? Yourself - remember, YOU ARE WORTH IT... LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS WILL...

You deserve time for you and only you.. If you are not sure what to do with your time at first, take up a class you always wanted to do, but couldn't find t he time, read a really good book, maybe even look at some self help or self awareness books, you will pleasantly surprised at how informational they can be, and helpful.

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