by Rochelle Cannon

Created on: October 21, 2008

While I am a huge advocate for forgiveness in relationships, forgetting Valentine's Day is NOT on my list of things to let slide. True, many people live very busy lives and work long, draining hours at thankless jobs, but even the most dedicated workaholic has no excuse for "forgetting" this holiday.

First of all, I do not believe it is even possible to forget Valentine's Day, with the swarm of red, pink, and white decorations, candy, flowers, cards, and gifts infiltrating every viable venue from grocery and drug stores to gas stations virtually right after the new year! Even if one never leaves the house, or leaves all of the shopping for you, surely they have watched television, listened to the radio, or surfed the internet ONCE and been bombarded by romance-laden commercials and advertisements for jewelry stores and giant balloons tied to bouquets of red roses. Valentine's Day is THE most overly-marketed holiday, and I confidently say that if your honey bunny fails to get you so much as a card, or even mention it, that he did not forget but actually blew it off as unimportant, or you as undeserving. He may very well try to feign forgetting, but as I have said, you shouldn't fall for this unless your stud is blind, deaf, AND immobile.

Another thing to consider if you have been let down on Valentine's Day is how NOT in tune with your wants and needs your partner is. If you are the type of woman who fantasizes about the perfect Valentine's Day (and most of us have at least once), then your partner most certainly knows this, and the fact that he did not make an effort to at least acknowledge it, then he is most likely selfish and inconsiderate, and YOU should consider finding a new mate who is more your romantic style. Would you forget his birthday, or the anniversary of your marriage? Would you forget the day he has a big performance review at work, or if he plays sports, the date of his championship game? You wouldn't if you really love him, because being in love is anything BUT selfish, and is all about going that extra mile to show your other half just how much you adore them. This goes for the other 364 days of the year as well, but if he can't even make the effort on the one day of the year that love is forceably and undeniably in the air, then either you need to embrace your self-absorbed lover or kick him to the curb for one who is more sensitive to your own ideals of romance.

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