by Missy Caroline

Created on: October 20, 2008   Last Updated: November 11, 2008

I never thought that it would come to this. What should have been the happiest time in our lives turned out to be the hardest. Unfortunately, a mutual decision could not be reached which eventually lead to our untimely breakup.

I found out I was pregnant about a year after we had been dating. It was an unexpected surprise though I did not think this would lead to the demise of our relationship. I thought my unplanned pregnancy would not be a problem since we had been discussing marriage for some time. My loving and supportive boyfriend, however, saw the unexpected pregnancy in a completely different, albeit liberal, way. He thought the timing was completely wrong and that he was not established enough in his career to support a child. It was true that my conservative beliefs rang in the back of my head: it is not ideal to bring a child into this world when his or her parents are not yet married. However, these conservative beliefs were triumphed by an even more traditional one: abortion was not an option.

I should have known right off the bat that our relationship was not going to last due to our strongly opposing political beliefs. That was, at least, what all our friends believed. I even learned later on that when we had first started dating, they all made bets on how long we were going to last together. This upset me greatly because if our own friends did not support us or even believe in us, who would? I knew, of course, that he had very liberal political views from the beginning because we had started off as friends. I naively thought that politics would not be something that could directly affect our relationship.

After the first month of dating, we quickly learned not to dwell on politics after having heated arguments on every subject imaginable. These arguments would often times lead to yelling matches on topics such as the proper role of the government, economic strategies, constitutional rights, and of course, abortion. I stubbornly and selfishly wanted him to understand where I was coming from, even secretly hoping that perhaps I could change his mind. Things would be so much easier if he shared my beliefs. It seemed as if though he was thinking of changing my beliefs as well.

It got to the point that we knew to avoid politics altogether and focus on what we did in fact have in common. These things consisted of our love for each other, our future life together, our shared religion, hobbies, and friends. Were these things not enough to hold us together

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