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Cheating is horrible abuse of one's trust, and often hurts the person who has been cheated on in many different ways that sometimes may not seem so apparent. Unfortunately there is no clear cut reason why people cheat, if there was then relationships with people who are prone to that type of behavior might be more easily avoided. For people who have been cheated on, the signs of such behavior may be more recognizable, but often a person is faced with the question of, "Are they really cheating or am I just being paranoid because this has happened before?" That is one of the great dilemma's a person is faced with when they suspect their spouse of infidelity, and is one of the more damaging effects that such an event has on a person.

Cheating while in a relationship is not limited to any one type of person, while certain people may be more prone to it due to trauma that they have suffered in their lives, some are simply opportunistic. When it comes down to it, it's a matter of conscience. Some people will act towards others in the way that they want to be treated, while others will try to get away with anything they can without being caught. It is a selfish act any way a person views it, a violation of trust, lack of respect for the person they are with, and possibly even a lack of respect for themselves. The most unfair part of it all is that the person who is cheated on is the one left to wonder why it happened. The victim may blame themselves for a variety of reasons, whether they think they didn't show the person how much they truly loved them, maybe they didn't satisfy their partner intimately, romantically, sexually, or emotionally. Any of these doubts are enough to destroy a persons faith in relationships and people in general, but the one thing to remember is that people who cheat are only cheating themselves. A loyal partner is never something that a person should turn their back on, and if they do, then the cheater will often find themselves bouncing from relationship to relationship looking to fill some kind of need within themselves that no partner can truly fulfill, it is simply a lack of character.

As far as second chances go, we've all heard the expression "Once a cheater, always a cheater". There are very few occasions when that is not true. A person who cheats once learns that they have the capacity to lie to people who they know love them. When faced with doing it again, the question of whether or not they can get away with it is usually the only one that they ask themselves. Cheaters believe that they are slick, that they are good at lying and that they can manipulate people whenever need be. To take advantage of a persons feelings however is not slick and their ability to lie is not an admirable trait. When someone bestows trust in another human being, it is no worthy skill to undermine that, it is simply wrong and yet again, a lack of character on their part.

There are very few occasions when a person who cheats will not do it again, some people say that it can make a relationship stronger if the couple is able to overcome it. Perhaps that is true, but more often than not, the cheater only becomes more skilled at lying and making excuses for their behavior. Everyone is different of course and as I mentioned before, there is no clear cut reason why people cheat, but there is also no clear cut reason why people love on another. There may be a lot of reasons, but there are no obvious ones. The best thing to do is to learn from the experience and perhaps amend your vision of your dream partner.

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