by Peggy Lindgren

Created on: October 19, 2008   Last Updated: January 30, 2010

Expressing an opinion or an emotion can be very intimidating in certain situations. We are taught from a very young age to "think before we speak" and this advice is indeed wise to follow. Sometimes, it is not so easy. There have been occasions when I have spoken without thinking and this has usually resulted in hurting someone's feelings. Learning from these mistakes has taught me to express myself, with careful consideration.

My mother was a very soft spoken, often timid person, yet expressed herself very well. She was always respectful and when she offered advice, I always listened. However, my father was a dominate male who felt we should keep our opinions to ourselves. My mom was able to find that balance to keep the peace in her marriage. I, however, being the independent individual that I was, expressed myself as openly and often as I could. This would more times than not, result in a great deal of friction between my dad and me.

Growing up with two completely different personalities was confusing at times. I admired my mother and her gentle nature but was frustrated when she would not stand up for herself. I believe this was the real reason I spoke up and developed a confidence to do so. We learn so much from observing others and as much as I respected her, I never wanted to feel as if my opinions and feelings did not matter.

Learning to express myself is an ongoing lesson. Communication is the best way I know to build strong relationships both personally and professionally. I admire those who can share their views without sounding arrogant or overconfident. It builds a mutual respect and allows each of us to be ourselves without the risk of being judged.

Expressing myself, through my writing has given me great satisfaction. I know others may or may not share my views but it is in the freedom of this expression that I love. I may get positive feedback or no response at all, but I appreciate the opportunity to say what I think. It is okay to be reviewed by another writer and if a criticism is given, I learn from it and do not take it personally. This is the freedom and opportunity; we each are allowed to have in this great country.

In conclusion, no, I am not afraid of expressing myself. I am proud to be able to do so and I am still learning to "think before I speak". The beauty in writing is we can backspace and delete, starting all over without doing any harm. Words are a powerful tool that can hurt someone or help them heal. Express yourself with confidence and others will appreciate what you have to say.

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