by Tn Fr0g

Created on: January 15, 2007   Last Updated: April 25, 2007

I have a 6 year old that is difficult. I know what you are thinking , they all are at that age. I am a mother of five. You are right all kids are difficult to a degree. Most physiologists will agree that there is a cause for the problem you are experiencing. I have a daughter that is 10. She is ADHD, she is difficult to keep a hold of. My 11 year old is a normal ( but yet difficult). My 16 year old son is ADHD and is a normal 16 year old boy. My 16 year old daughter , (yes they are twins) is the one that is not even considered being remotely difficult. She is almost the perfect person. In looking at my experience, 4 out of 5 , I think that the younger the child the more difficult they can be. The six year old complains ALL the time. I don't like this food , I want to play with the older kids , I want to be bigger , it is all normal it is all a part of GROWING UP. If you allow the behavior to continue then they will always act like that, even when grown. All you can do is try to explain it and help them through it , but there are limits. He will not do anything that I ask him to. He tattles to his dad on the other kids , he won't be happy till someone is in trouble. So we have had to start grounding him for tattling. He tells me all the time he does not to do what he is told. Once they reach this point you can't ground them cause they have feet they will use them. They have a mouth and know EXACTLY what to say to make you angry , or make you laugh. They think they are smarter and can outwit you. And to be honest most times they do.You just have to do what you think is best. How much grounding and punishing yourself is worth the time and effort. You can talk till your blue in the face and until the mentality is there it wont do any good. People mature at different rates. Your six year old might be my 11 year old. It depends on alot of circumstances. How the house is run , what you let them do , what they think they can get away with , who the authority figure is. They will outgrow this . As I said in the beginning it is STAGES. Just have to do the best you can. For severely difficult children you are gonna need help. You won't be able to do it alone. Good Luck!

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