by cyndihaltom52

Created on: October 19, 2008

Reflections on hatred and what it does to you.

Hatred is a cancer that destroys the very lives that it touches. It causes illness, depression, inability to communicate with others on a pleasant level and can ultimately destroy you and bring about death. Hatred has destroyed families, longtime relationships and friends.

In order for hatred to even exist it has be thought about constantly. It must be in the forefront of your mind all the time, thinking about the person who caused you the pain to bring about the hatred that so absorbs the body. Hatred is not something that can't be overcome or moved passed but it is something that will stay with you a lifetime if it is overlooked and thought to be as much a part of life as love.

Hatred is not an ordinary or often used emotion. I have never said "I hate you" to anybody even when I was so badly hurt; I couldn't hate the people responsible. Why? Because the problems are not worth the effort it takes to hate. I refuse to give in to that type of destructive behavior. This has be an experience in my life and I have learned and grown. I tell other people all the time, people who make statements such as "I hate that person, I hate my wife or husband, I'm a redheaded step father and hate my new kids", to stay away from the hate factor. Not only does it harm you, your friends but also is a small part of the Alzheimer's problems. Don't laught, it's true.

My grandfather was full of hate from the time I was a small child and by the time he was in his fifty's he had the beginning stages of this most horrible disease. I watched him go from the loving gentle grandparent to a mean and negative person whom most people chose to avoid during his life. He broke my moms arm, kicked my daughter in the head when she was taking care of him while my mother and I went shopping. When we got home my daughter was hiding behind the couch afraid to approach my grandfather because he was watching both ends of the couch with a cane in his hand. My daughter was young and she didn't understand until I explained to her that he couldn't help himself, he was a mean young man and an even meaner Alzheimer's patient.

I have seen hatred destroy my sister. A person with the ability to allow herself to send messages to every member of our family trying desperately to destroy my relationships with my other siblings. It worked, they don't want to have anything to do with me and it makes me sad because I love her children and I love being an Aunt and I have always

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