by Alias

Created on: October 11, 2008   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

It's kind of ironic that I should come across an article or a debate such as this...

I tell my friends all the time that if my marriage were to fail, I would become a non active lesbian. Please don't mistake this comment as anything derogatory, as I believe each to their own. Whatever floats your boat.

Just as no two men are exactly the same, men and women are not exactly different. I'm sure that women that are in lesbian relationships suffer from some of the same pitfalls as heterosexual couples do. Who cleans more, who makes more money, etc etc. Somehow though, I don't think its quite as bad. Maybe thats the lie I tell myself, but I believe that most women just want equality in a relationship, whereas men tend to want to run the show. Like I said.. maybe its just me, but then it would have to just be all the women I know too.

When I tell my friends that I would "become" a lesbian its laughable, but really, its not as funny as they think it is. Partnerships do not require sexual stimulation.. just ask some of your married friends. After you've been married awhile, you see that living, coexisting with another person, becomes so much bigger than that. Our sex life doesn't pay the bills, raise our kids, or define who I am as a person.

Men are always asking what women really want, but do they really even want to know the answer? I can talk and talk until I'm blue in the face about my needs and wants, and I think he picks up the first and last words of every sentence. If your in a relationship with a woman thats made up of the same sensory emotions, wouldn't it be easier? I wouldn't have to tell her what I need, I think she'd pretty much know. Although all of our needs vary, the true makeup of a woman does not. I need emotional fulfillment. However you come about providing that is up to you as a man. My female friends provide this just being my shoulder to cry on, my hand to hold, or their lended ear.

This world is made up of all sorts of men, so its almost unfair to catagorize them all under the same guideline. Not all men are insensitive, uncaring, or sexual deviants- just most of the ones I know. I'm not a feminist, but I am pro woman. I respect the needs of other women and I kind of just feel fet up with the male species sometimes. I don't hate men, I just dislike how they've been accustomed to see, treat, and view women. I'm sure they have similar feelings and thats why maybe they should consider a homosexual relationship themselves. (yeah, I know)

Listen, I don't know everything about anything, but I do know a little bit of something about somethings, and this is one of them. Women don't need men. The only thing that I can honestly think of is creating life, and at the rate we're going, that will be a thing of the past as well. In about 50 years we'll be asexual so it won't even matter.

On a more serious note, I do know a few women who have chosen a different lifestyle after being in very painful relationships with men. One of the women have a few children that she has pulled along for the ride and I'm sure that they are just as confused or even more so than some of the people that do not understand this transition. All I know is that they seem so much happier now. The definition of a relationship does not mean anything more than the connection on emotional level with another person. If the world wants to classify you as a lesbian because you enjoy the company of women over the company of a man, as a woman, I guess my friends won't be laughing in the end.

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