by Renee Mcknight

Created on: October 11, 2008

Marriage throughout the years has lost its value, its lost its meaning.

100 years ago, men and women were entering marriage with the idea that it was a life long commitment, now most couples give up after the honeymoon stage. I have met numerous couples who were living "Common Law" and this is recognized by the government as the equivalent to marriage, so again i say marriage has lost its true meaning.

Most people 100 years ago entered into a marriage with the preconceived idea that they were in it for the long haul, and most couples endured the pain and suffering and happiness and furfillment with each other till a very old age or until one made there transition.

I could say after meeting couples who have entered into Marriage the ones who have stuck it out, the ones who made it through the hard times and come out stronger are the ones who knew how to communicate, the ones who truly entered into the marriage because they shared love...not because they felt it was a good thing to do, or they just wanted to experience that day, those are things i have heard from women when i asked them there idea on marrying. There is no commitment behind marrying because you want to be self righteous, or because you want to have that moment when everyone is looking at you and you get money or gifts, thats a Divorce waiting to happen.

People feel that once they are living together and have been for 6 months, they dont need to marry, they feel its not going to change anything, they feel content being seen as married by the government, so really what would be the point of getting married? Why would people choose to sign a document, maybe change there last name? Have a night of bliss? But a costly one.

I can see the numbers of Marriages dropping quickly because of these factors, people just don't see the point the way they did 100 years ago, and the attitude of the people towards marriage has changed because it holds little value. The average person does not react to someone pregnant before marriage like they did 100 years ago, its an accepted way of life. Common Law is recognized as a equivalent to tax preparation, ownership of belongings, rights and obligations of two partners. The real only difference is the last name, the expensive wedding and honeymoon, or recognition. So the question at hand is obvious in todays societies, unless a person is of a specific faith and holds Marriage as a sacred Union between two partners, but even churches today are losing more of that outlook, because its accepted in society.

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