by Gilbert Motsaathebe

Created on: September 02, 2005   Last Updated: November 13, 2009

Start with yourself.

Get organized!

Concentrate on getting the things that you always wanted for yourself. The key word is abundance!

Try to live your life the way you want the two of you to live it.

Show incredible confidence in yourself and the way you run your life! In this way you become a source of attraction because you radiate confidence and appear comfortable with the way you live your life -Guaranteed!

Generally people who are well organized, respectful, hygienic, confident but not egoistic are deemed more attractive.

You also need to look at unresolved issues in your life. Remember you can never hope to attract the best partner if you have lots of baggage and unresolved issues. If you have issues, you will be indubitably be considered a liability, overtly or covertly - whether you like it or not. No one wants liabilities, since we all have lots of baggage so the tendency with Human Beings is to avoid adding more to their problems.

The reason why people get involved in long lasting relationships is to find true happiness. And you will of course agree that happiness is very elusive in the mist of problems. So try hard to look after yourself, your life, dress nicely, work on your personality, do not be selfish, be prepared to take an extra-mile, then he or she will feel that you are worth it.

Find your own happiness first before you look for it in others. Remember you are not looking for a parent but for a partner. They too have their own lives to run and the journey to true love full of everlasting joys is a mutual and not parasitic one.

Success attitude, phenomenal appearance and communication skills all start with two important things: love and respect for yourself. If we can love ourselves and make a concerted effort to look after ourselves we will be a step ahead. The result is that you will feel good about yourself and people will feel the same about you.

So I say to you, make an effort to improve all those aspects that you feel insecure about and watch the results. You see, when YOU feel insecure about something, it simply means that you have neglected it and remember we can always do more. There is absolutely nothing to stop you.

The most important thing about life is not so much about living. It is more about being able to enjoy it. This is a universal truth. It doesn't matter where you are and what you do, life without happiness is simply not worth living.

Happiness is the most elusive of all aspirations. Some people even make the mistake of equating money with happiness. There are so many people I know who have money but are unhappy, in fact more unhappy than some of those I know who don't have money.

You find true happiness in life when you are happy with yourself (image, personality, behaviour, thoughts that dominate your mind); you have people that you like and love in your life (lovers, family, circle of friends and associates); you have money to manage your life (buy and do the things that you want); and time (to do whatever you want when you want it.) These include doing things you like when you want to do them. Many a time your can determine your happiness by making a decision and plan to stop doing those things you hate and doing only those you are passionate about.

If you can manage to observe these rituals, you will become like a jewel in the crown!

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