The day came where i had to forgive my mother. I never thought i would. and to be honest i never really wanted to, but now i have children of my own and its only fair that theyhave a relationship with their grandparent. The day started on mothers day about 8 years ago now. Me and both of my brothers both dashed into my mum and dads bedroom, with all the presents and cards for my mum which because we were young my dad bought them for us. It was really strange because she couldnt stop saying thankyou and crying alot too. At the time we all thought it was because she was so happy and great full for her gifts. but the next day we found out the real reason to her tears. Later on in the afternoon my dad had to go to work. so it was just me , mum and my brothers. She said to us that we needed to pop out because she needed to pick something up from her friends house. So off we went in the car. It was some sort of lingerie she brought back in the car after leaving her friends house. it looked expensive anyway!

I remeber that night she put us all to bed as we were only young and kept telling us how much she loved us. I just thought she must still be overwhelmed about the presents. plus she was one of those mums who always told us that she loved us at least 7 times a day. she always made sure we knew.]

he next morning my dad had just got home from work and it was a school day so i walked downstairs to find my dad............... crying. I asked him what was a matter. he had a letter in his hand, i never saw my dad cry before it really upset me. He told me that my mum had gone away for a while, but i knew it was more than that. other wise he wouldnt have been crying. i read the letter when my dad left and it said that she was leaving him and she had gone to israel with this bloke she used to work with who was like 10-15 yrs younger than her.

We never saw her for a year. But then the time came when i found out i was pregnant and when my son was born i realised i did not want him to miss out on having a relshionship with his grandparent. no matter how much she hurt me i learned that in time i could forgive her. And i did now we have all moved on and my dad is happy with his fiance. Now we are closer than ever. and happier than ever. One of my brothers still dosnt see her but he was really young when it happened so he took it hard. He might change his mind in time. But he dosnt have to.

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