by Roxanne Cottell

Created on: October 05, 2008

This is not a "should" question.

In fact, this is not a question that is anyone's business other than the people who are about to have sex. Marriage is a man-made invention, even though many would have us believe that it was God who created it. Some hold the belief that since something is in the Bible, and then that belief is made known by more than a few people, and those few tell many more groups of a few, the thinking will be that what the Bible says is absolute truth. When you think "truth," you think that what is written is absolute and should be taken as being concrete. But truth is all in the perception.

The idea that sex before marriage is the business of anyone 'religious' is ridiculous. No one - not the preacher, the preacher's wife, the lady who the preacher's wife gossips to and neither the ladies lunchheon group who that lady likes to gossip with - has any business knowing about the business of sex between two consenting adults. People who judge others' "sins" are usually the very ones who are sinning the same sins.

"No sex before marriage" is an archaic standard which was inititiated by a bunch of men who were trying to control the women in their lives. And those men chose women who were weak minded, judgmental and easy to persuade into believing that they were nothing without a man thinking for them. It is hard to think that even now in a world where my daughter can one day run for and maybe win the office of the President of the United States, there are still women who sit around tables at ladies luncheons and church meetings commiting sins by talking about people who have sex without a piece of paper.

Again, it is not a question of 'should," but rather of "have you?"

Man has made what people do in the privacy of their own homes something that is dirty and shameful, which is why it is in the Bible, because people like to have something to believe in. Having morals is not limited to not have premarital sex. Having morals is being able to respect the privacy of others. Having morals is being able to not judge others, to not say horrible things about other people who do things that you know you did before you were given the high and mighty holy OK to do so.

People have used sex in the media to advertise beer, deodorant, booze, shaving cream, soda, nacho cheese chips, jeans, tennis shoes, vehicles, and yep, lubricating gel. People still buy the products advertised this way, but it is ok, because that is the way that stuff is sold.

The generation that made it OK to love freely are now the very people who are telling others that it is not OK, and these are the people who are trying to atone for the nasty late night sins they committed, and it's funny that they would do so, all in the name of trying hard to not let their kids make the same mistakes they did and copping to the idea that now they know that what they did was wrong.

The real reason is because they know what their kids are doing, spending all those late nights out with people who they themselves would love to date if they were not so stinking moral!

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