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Stay-at-home-moms surely never get the recognition they deserve. I've been the working mother and have been the stay-at-home mom. You end up getting more grief for working with children than you do staying at home with your children, but when you stay at home with your children, you're considered lazy and useless.

When I had my second son, I did my research on the daycares. I would be spending more on daycare than I'd be getting at any job since I had two children. But, although I was educated, people would always ask me, "Is that all you're going to do with your life?" I had already been a certified teacher. I've already worked various jobs throughout my life, but because I was a stay-at-home mom, I didn't have any ambition.

I would get rude remarks from the children's father when we were married about not working. He'd always tell me I was worthless and should be contributing to the financial end of things. But, he didn't understand that paying for childcare and the gas to work was not going to make any bit of financial help.

A stay-at-home mom is the one who is cleaning the house, making meals, bathing and feeding children, and doing everything else under the sun. There are no breaks. There are no benefits. There is no recognition. There is just shame brought on you by everyone around you.

When you have a regular job, you get breaks, you get a lunch without duty, and you also get a bit of calm when you drive to and from work. A stay-at-home mom doesn't get the breaks. In fact, when the other parent comes home, you just end up having more responsibilities. It's insane the stuff that you have to do when you're a stay-at-home mom.

I am now a single parent and am forced to work. I don't regret for one second the time I spent with my children at home. I don't care if everyone around me thought I was worthless and lazy and not good for anything but sitting on my butt. I was able to bond with my children in a way that a lot of mothers don't.

If I could do it financially, I'd be a stay-at-home working mom. I would work from home and spend time with my children at the same time. It is not an option now, but would be definitely open to the idea in the future. My children would appreciate it and respect me for my decision.

Society needs to learn to just worry about their own lives and not judge mothers for making a decision to work or not to work. As long as the kids are safe and okay, the judgment should not be made.

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